So I typically take the weekends to reflect on the previous week and read through those not so pressing emails and catch up on blogs that I wanted to give more than a glance at. One of those emails was a newsletter that I get from a friend who happens to be a personal trainer. One topic in the letter was that on change. Yeah, when you hear ‘change’ you either cringe or you smile. In truth, I have a love/hate with change. I try to embrace it but sometime I just don’t quite make the changes I need to. Well in keeping with my new blog theme and focus (ie. blog change), I wanted to spend a few word son this topic.
First off, I think it is important to remember that change is instantaneous, so you can dis-spell with the idea that changes takes months or even years. I will admit that the hard par tis making those changes last. Or maybe, its not really that hard and its just our own expectations. Think about this :
We expect to try and fail numerous times before we ultimately give up or succeed.
How true is that? We actually go into making a change with some expectation to fail. I’m a pretty strong believer that we all create our outcomes via our own beliefs and thoughts. Thus, if you think you’ll fail…well you probably will. I know I have and yes it is hard to keep positive, especially when someone says that to you. So how do we go about making lasting change?
According to professional speaker and author, Anthony Robbins, it’s the getting ready to change that takes times. In the end there’s an instant when the change occurs. Robbins goes on to outline three specific beliefs that you must have in order to instantly create a lasting change.
Belief #1: Something must change.
Do you kind of want to get into shape or do you absolutely have to lose the weight? Does dropping a few pounds sound nice or is living another day in your current body simply out of the question? In order to make a lasting change you must be convinced that the time is right.
Belief #2: I must change it.
It is vital that you take full responsibility in making the change. Sure, others may assist you, but in the end you are the one who is going to make it happen. You have to want this change enough to make it your personal mission-no one else will do it for you.
Belief #3: I can change it.
Don’t let past failures get in your way. The truth is that you can do amazing things when you put your mind to it. Believe that you are capable of losing weight or making any other positive change in your life.
So what’s the answer? In short, I think it has everything to do with keeping in front of you why you are making the change. I keep me motivated on my blogging, I read other blogs that are where I want to be. I’m not talking about money makers but bloggers that post things that make me want to read and do so consistently. I enjoy how they engage their audience and only hope to get to that point with this blog. Anthony Robbins big deal is to associate pain with the behavior you want to change. Ultimately, we ll want to be happy and try to avoid pain at all costs (regardless of how small the pain is). In the past, I know i avoided some changes because I honestly believed there was more pain in the change than not. The reality is their is more pain in most changes, but it is very short term. Long term results are usually the opposite, more pain with not changing.
Let me leave you with this, go ahead and make that change and remember that you’ll gain infinitely more pleasure from the change than not. Feel free to share any of your thoughts on change in the comments.